A sob story
October 25, 2007 by madhurisinha
Seems like ‘Times- they are a changing’.
Contrary to popular beliefs, men do sometimes cry or tear up in public. Seems like teary eyed male politicians and media personalities are seen more now a days than before.
There is something about well built men who otherwise have competitive attitudes and are best in their fields going misty eyed. On one hand sensitivity is seen as a positive step towards compassion and honesty, although only in moderation.
I remember some reality shows on Bravo, one was the ‘Project Runway’ and the other was ‘Top Chef’, both were competitions and some men did weep incessantly due to the stress and tensions and were subsequently reprimanded for not being professional.
So too much crying or too often can also have the opposite effect. Although women have perfected the art of moderation equals to effectiveness, the men are new at this and so do not know when to stop.
However I have seen most of the men in my family or friend circle tear up and cry (I don’t have anything to do with it…really).
When it was time for my parents to bid me goodbye during my annual home visits, it would be my Dad who would start the weeping program and my Mom would just look on (almost glad that the visits were over and now she could have the TV remote all to herself and of course now she wouldn’t have to live in the kitchen).
I remember watching the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai with a male friend in a movie theater.
After half an hour i was distracted from the screen by someone sniffing and sniffling nearby. I turned to look at my otherwise well built male friend and there were tears rolling down his cheeks like Ganga Jamuna. Later on he disowned his teary episode to a cold (which he caught only for the duration of the movie…amazing movie virus AMV).
How does one distinguish between a mere demonstration and a sincerity. Well, its really not easy and other background factors like how much you know that person both publicly and personally do play a major part.
Crying is only an emotional display and so like love is universal.
My hubby does go misty-eyed at times, and in fact he did today as it’s my birthday!
I like sensitive guys. Love them in fact.
You are right about moderation though. Whether man or woman, if you do it too often it loses it’s meaning…er…charm. I myself I hate to cry. I get a lump in my throat often enough though…
Really dont know who said ‘boys dont cry’ first? I find it difficult to believe that crying is a show of weakness, in fact its just another emotion…. everyone can express it…. btw, that kuch kuch hota hai episode happened with me too… same movie, my friend beside me started sobbing by interval
Eyes do water when looking at the big screen, a purely physiological reaction, especially if you got tickets late and are placed way towards the screen.
That apart, I like men who have the honesty to cry.
Hi Nita,
Wishing You a Very Happy Birthday and Many Many Happy returns of this wonderful Day.
Yes even I hate to cry in front of others and get misty eyed sometimes.
Sensitive men are wonderful and its amazing to see how an otherwise stern man can become teary while interacting with his children and loved ones.
Thanks
Hi Doc,
I think the movie episode was more as Kajol was being made fun of for trying to woo SRK, not for other reasons.
Yes, I like men who go misty eyed on sensitive issues too. Thanks
Hi Oemar,
Thanks for visiting. I do not think crying is a sign of weakness, it is rather demonstration of one’s sensitiveness.
But like chocolates, crying is all about ‘in moderation’.
My father cried more than my mother when I got married. I think men are more sentimental than women. Like Nita said//I like sensitive guys. Love them in fact.// I agree.
You know Prerna, my hubby cried more during our wedding (bidai ceremony, actually my family members stopped weeping after seeing him!)…makes me wonder….how did he realize what our future life would hold?.
Madhuri: After reading your post, my attention to an article like this was clearly heightened:
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/the_way_we_live/article2714843.ece
Read on..
//Great Article shefaly. Yeah I dont know what will happen if we have to watch Bin Laden, laden with tears.
It will be worth to watch the reactions of his disciples.
By the way why cant I see your beautiful avatar?//
//By the way why cant I see your beautiful avatar?//
I was not logged in on WordPress, Madhuri, and working on the other computer.
Tumi kothaay??
as much as i hate admitting this..i have done my fair share of crying. Its quite helpful i have realized
I see no reason why men feel they have to hide their tears. Granted, I might not know how to console one if he suddenly burst into tears but at least I am aware that as a human being he is entitled to his right to cry.
The worst sound you can hear is a man crying in pain. It rips into you. And you are never the same.
I am a man, yet I cry, as you can see from my poems.
But should I cry that you’re not posting since so long? No, I don’t cry, but I do feel very sad.